Polyamory married and dating triad
It wasn't something we jumped into, we talked about it for six months."Nervously, they attended their first poly meet-up and were "blown away" when they were faced with a room full of perfectly ordinary people.Thus far the dating has been fairly ordinary too, for Kim at least."I have gone on so many dates and had so many duds, it's just ridiculous," she says. But that's the good thing about poly, I can come home and we can laugh about it together."Her husband has met "two fabulous ladies" and one has become his girlfriend.He spends five nights a week at home with Kim and the kids and two nights with his girlfriend.
Poly hookups happen on Tinder and Ok Cupid while Kiwiburn, our version of the Burning Man festival, is known for being a poly hangout.There's her and Joe; her and Karl; Karl and Joe; and her, Karl and Joe."We hang out at home together, sometimes we'll go out for dinner.And if someone else comes along, all parties need to know about it as soon as feelings have developed."If I meet someone I think is attractive, I can appreciate that openly and even share it without the guilt and negativity one might experience in a monogamous relationship," explains Samantha, who was once married to a man."People in monogamous relationships tend to feel entitled to their partner's time, body and feelings.
Just because you're boinking someone, you don't own them." Sipping a cup of tea as she chats, Ana, in her late 30s, says: "[With monogamy] you either have to exercise amazing self control or really hurt someone, and I don't have amazing self control. If you're in a traditional relationship you can't really go to your partner and say, 'I really wanna get it on with this person, is that okay?If [my husband] met someone he wanted to see more seriously than his girlfriend, what's to say we couldn't get a bigger house and all live together?